Neurodiversity can play a large role in how you interact with sex and relationships. Our Sex Therapist shares some tips around how to improve your sex life if you or your partner experience ADHD, Autism or neurodiversity. Many of our online sex therapy clients experience neurodiversity and find great results adding a neurodiversity lens to sex and love.
Control the sensory stimuli
For many individuals with ADHD, Autism or neurodiversity, sensory aspects of sex can distract, or create strong aversions. The scent of your partner, the texture of scratchy sheets. If you are easily distracted by sensory stimuli then control what you can to make sure your sensory experience is comfortable and expected. If you're excited by sensory stimuli - include this in your bedroom antics for a quick dopamine fix.
Get into your body and out of your head
Easy said, hard to do, we hear you. Many people experiencing ADHD or ASD may experience hyperactive minds, that are constantly thinking about the to do list, or obsessing over what their partner is thinking during sex. Try, where possible, to get into your body and focus on the pleasure sensations you are experiencing. Write out a list of what you need to do before you get down and dirty. So the dirty laundry isn't all your thinking about during sex.
Acknowledge your differences
Many of our online sex therapy clients are either ADHD/ASD couples, or neurotypical with a neurodiverse partner. Acknowledge you are different and may have different requirements from sex. A person who experiences ADHD may crave variety and novelty, while a person who experiences ASD may want routine and predictability. Through online sex therapy we can support you to explore how to negotiate these bedroom differences.
Our online sex therapy practices are neurodiversity affirming and inclusive. If you're in a relationship, dating or solo and would like to explore the intersection between your neurodiversity and sex, we would love to work with you.
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